I’m not very good at send offs, I would imagine that most people have some hurdle to climb with saying goodbye to a friend, even if it’s just for now. Today was a home-going ceremony and it was special. Those moments typically take my mind on a roller coaster ride, not just about the person I’m there to celebrate, but ultimately for my own family.
The young man I was there to celebrate is only a few years younger than I am. I met him through his mom, Martie. She and I worked together a hundred years ago in radio and that’s where I was introduced to Skyler. He was diagnosed with cancer over a year ago and given only two months to make it, he made it thirteen months instead.
What was so impressive about Skyler was his attitude, it was surprisingly upbeat despite the dire prediction of his situation. That light-in-spite-of-the-circumstances quality was apparently contagious, others repeatedly made mention of that today. He’s human, so like all of us I’m sure he made some mistakes along the way – I’ve made plenty. But in the end it’s not the mistakes that matter, it’s what you fight for that counts. I learned that he was willing to do anything to get close to his sons and that includes moving so that he was only a half mile away. I have tremendous respect for that approach.
I’m always left with a recurring question that keeps tapping me on the shoulder with every one of those home-going celebrations, “how much time do I have?” There is no answer to that question of course. However, today I learned that instead of two months, Skyler was blessed with a thirteen month journey which he then brilliantly turned into just enough time to make a difference – and that’s saying something.
Thanks for reading my blog my friend, make today count.